Dating Advice for the Sensible
Posted by Elliot April 28, 2012
No one ever said dating was easy, but there is a right way and wrong way to approach new dating endeavors.
Unfortunately it is easy to get stuck in bad habits that go on to create a pattern of unfulfilling dating
experiences. Here are some practical dating tips for women looking to get the most out of a new encounter...
1. Be Unique –AKA- Be Yourself
Don’t bother beginning a new relationship with a façade
because you won’t be able to keep it up forever. If you want to meet men who are truly attracted to you then you
have to be YOU. But even more than that, you should strive to be your unique self. Certainly you’ve been on dates
with guys who bore you to tears. Well don’t think this doesn’t
happen to men as well! It is okay to share some basic details about your career and friends, but it is much more
interesting for your date when you discuss your dreams, goals, and temptations. These are the things that define
you as a person.
2. Project Confidence
What do you find more attractive in
men…quiet, shy guys who don’t say much OR ambitious, energetic men who want to share their world with you? If
you are like most women then you prefer the latter. Despite the common stereotype of dainty and submissive
women getting all the men, the truth is that the majority of guys seek confident women for long-term relationships. They need to know
that they have a partner who can carry their weight in a relationship. Thus, they want to see your confidence
shine through right from the start.
3. Attract with Positivity
Just like you try to avoid negative people in your own life, your
date doesn’t care much to hear about your awful day, financial troubles, or how your boss doesn’t appreciate you.
Dating, and romantic relationships in general should represent everything that is good about our lives. Even a
small dose of negativity on the first few dates can kill the positive vibe. Being positive, especially in the face
of adversity, is a very desirable attribute. When you put your best forward you will have no trouble attracting
4. Have an Opinion
You shouldn’t be hesitant to share an opinion with your date. After all,
these opinions form the backbone of your likes and dislikes…so hiding them is almost like lying. Men love engaging
conversation and competing viewpoints, which is why they so often discuss sports and politics with their friends.
Agreeing with everything a guy says may be the path of least resistance but it does nothing to separate you from the competition. By sharing your perspective on different
topics you provide more ways for attraction to build.
5. Understand Perception
We date people to get to know them and determine if they are a good
match for a relationship. With that comes a hyper-sensitive period in the beginning when we analyze everything they
say or do. This is why it is important to recognize the perception of your dating partner. Even if you feel
comfortable around them you still need to consider your words and actions. Dating someone new is a much different
situation than say relaxing with your friends. While your friends know you well enough to tell when you are joking
around, your date is still learning to trust you. Bottom line, act appropriately and know that your behavior is
making an impression on everyone you interact with.
Imagine if your guy had a traffic light attached his head AND it showed you exactly where you stand with him
...at any given time. Crazy? Watch this video from T.W. Jackson and learn all
the signs your man is giving you.