Make Him Want You: Melting a Man's Heart

Perhaps you have had your eye on a particular guy for some time now.  You talk regularly, sometimes even flirting lightly, but for whatever reason you just can get him to take the next step with you.  You are stuck in a casual friendship that doesn’t satisfy your relationship needs.  If this is the case then you need to focus on making your man want you.  This is the level of attraction where he needs to be with you and he is willing to do anything to be involved in your life.

Building desire is not a one-shot strategy that you can simply turn on or off when you need it.  Rather, it is a comprehensive way of acting and thinking that will change the way everyone (including your man) perceives you.  You don’t necessarily need to change the way you look, but you will need to concentrate on the things you say and how you say them.  You can experiment with changes to your appearance throughout the process, keeping tabs of those things that bring you the most compliments.

The main thing to focus on is the way you interact with your man.  You can make him want you by sending subtle messages through your words and actions.  Always smile and be positive with your conversations.  Make sure you position yourself as close to him as comfortably possible during your interactions.  You want to force him to take notice of you and this means breaking down the traditional barriers of personal space.  Always make eye contact and lead your conversations into flirtatious subjects when appropriate.  Most importantly, keep him in suspense on what your next move will be.

One thing to be careful with is the dreaded “friends talk”.  Never suggest to your man or anyone else that you are simply friends.  Some men are very considerate of the friendship bond, and advertising your relationship as a friendship might prevent it from ever escalating to something stronger.  You can use words like buddy, pal, or anything else that leaves the door open for more.  The best method is choosing a nickname you can call each other that will bring a smile to his face each time you say it.

You can learn how to make him want you, but you need to build a long term strategy to be successful.  Think of ways you can force your man to notice you.  You want to get to the point where he thinks about you even when you are not there.  Men who fall for women can easily become obsessed with their new flame.  Use this to your advantage by keeping the sparks of attraction flowing at all times.  The hardest part is building that initial level of attraction.  From there things will move much faster if you continue to lead him in the right direction.